Isn’t it funny how you can be feeling so out of sorts one minute and then you receive a phone call, or you bump into a friend, or you attend a seminar talk, or you read or listen to someone and they just totally and utterly move you. It’s like your light has just been switched back on and a soft hand has gently cradled and massaged your heart and brought it back to life. A spark has been lit and you feel so god damn good!
Well this happened to me a few nights ago when I attended a live talk from a well known parenting guru in Australia, Maggie Dent. The talk was all about raising boys, and with 2 young boys in my home I wanted to know what words of wisdom or ‘gold nuggets’ Maggie had to pass on to me about how I can better raise my sons. I’ve heard Maggie talk in the past, but my goodness she really was a breath of fresh air to listen to last night. Maybe I was sooooo sleep deprived at the previous talks I attended when my boys were only tiny bubs, that I just didn’t pick up on and soak in the key messages! I think I didn’t soak up or process much at all in those early days to be quite honest!!
But what I went away with last night really lit me up. And you know what did it? A simple heart felt film that literally brought me to tears in an entertainment theatre filled with hundreds of other Mum’s and Dad’s (and no I didn’t have a box of tissues so my sleeve was drenched!). It was a film that made me realise how much family means to me. My family are my passion and they are what motivate me each and every day to show up and be a better version of who I am. My family are my constellation; those beaming and glowing lights that link me back to my heart and my true nature. They force me to look at the parts of myself that I would rather lock away in a cage and never let out. But I know all too well that doing this means that my inner mean girl will eventually rise up and make herself known…(eeeeek look out!). Instead, I would much rather acknowledge those parts of me that my children, in particular, mirror back to me, so that I can feel those feelings, acknowledge them, and when they are ready to move on I can let them go and thank them for showing me where I needed to grow myself up.
I have lots of other soul shaking, heart stirring passions in life. Being a parent is just one of them. What is your passion? What lights you up? I remember someone asking me these same questions several years ago and I looked at them like they had 3 heads! “My passion? Ummmm, errrrrrrrr, yeh…..I’ll get back to you on that one!”. I honestly couldn’t tell them what I was passionate about. After a significant amount of personal development and growth I began to realised the link between my values and my passions. Values are the things that are really important to you. They are things that really matter to you. These don’t necessarily have to be ‘things’ like family, art, singing, the environment etc…They can be words like ‘respect’, ‘love’ ‘truth’, ‘kindness’ etc… And when I ranked these values I soon saw the link between them and my passions. I now know that when I live true to my values I am doing what I am passionate about and boy does that feel soooooo amazing! And when I’m not living in accordance to my values then I often find myself blocking, sabotaging and limiting myself from creating the kind of life that I love.
So as you go about your day, begin to take notice of things that move you. Things that light you up…things that really shift your inner landscape, because it’s those things that will link you back to your values. And when your not living in accordance to your values, expect to experience some pain. Sometimes some excruciating emotional pain! It’s your body’s way of telling you that you need to get back on the path and realign yourself back to what is most important to YOU.
So get your tissue box ready (if you’re a bit of a sensitive type like me) and watch the film clip that brought me to tears. Turn the volume up and feel whatever comes up for you.
With warm glowing hugs